Ok guys, got a female issue.

DougLikesBMW · 11-10-2010, 05:42 PM

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Originally Posted by silvergray545

Just tell her straight up. You obviously have some feelings for her. Make sure she knows that. Then tell her you're not ready to say ily yet.

This. I would mention your story that you've said it too early before when it wasn't fully true and you regretted it. Love is a heavy word to just throw around.

Also I missed the pics, my PM box is open OP.

Kroy · 11-10-2010, 05:44 PM

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Originally Posted by klipseracer

The girl in the gym *COUGH*. Anyway, I'm deleting the pics now.

whatever, payment received

NYCGarbagePrince · 11-10-2010, 05:47 PM

how did I miss the pics? It's only been 2 hours.... wtf?!

T-MC-G · 11-10-2010, 06:01 PM

ask yourself if you can deal with a huge fight and breaking her heart. if you can, just say i love you back and see what happens...

oh yeah, be sure to keep on pulling out until you know for a fact you are in love with her yourself.

Kroy · 11-10-2010, 06:04 PM

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Originally Posted by NYCGarbagePrince

how did I miss the pics? It's only been 2 hours.... wtf?!

pics were good

Gavin@MMW · 11-10-2010, 06:08 PM

Lifes short, take a chance.

Tondtar · 11-10-2010, 06:34 PM

piitb

Not sure what it is or why but ..... it seems to be the obvious and the best answer for any and all posts dealing with the other gender around here.

CasperSYTFU · 11-10-2010, 06:45 PM

+1 piitb

JayKay335i · 11-10-2010, 07:31 PM

No PIITB. AZ bitches got the aids.

GP20 · 11-10-2010, 07:36 PM

Even if you DO love her, telling it to her would be like shooting yourself in the foot, 'cos then you'd become less of a challenge instantly and she'll start losing attraction for you slowly. And since you aren't even sure if you love her, don't bother saying anything. Just continue dating her. Relaying your feelings for her TO her is not going to make her any more drawn into you; it has the opposite effect.

Vanity · 11-10-2010, 07:55 PM

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Originally Posted by GP20

Even if you DO love her, telling it to her would be like shooting yourself in the foot, 'cos then you'd become less of a challenge instantly and she'll start losing attraction for you slowly. And since you aren't even sure if you love her, don't bother saying anything. Just continue dating her. Relaying your feelings for her TO her is not going to make her any more drawn into you; it has the opposite effect.

Well, gee, how does a guy get out of that fked up paradox ya got there?

haha

GP20 · 11-10-2010, 08:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanity

Well, gee, how does a guy get out of that fked up paradox ya got there?

haha

If being a wussie and a non-challenge and yapping "i-love-u's" daily works for you and your woman, more power to you.

Vanity · 11-10-2010, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by GP20

If being a wussie and a non-challenge and yapping "i-love-u's" daily works for you and your woman, more power to you.

I'm afraid you've heard wrong there. Saying "I Love You" does not make you a wuss. In fact, it's the opposite. Not saying it means you are, however.

bmwmthree · 11-10-2010, 09:32 PM

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Originally Posted by DougLikesBMW

Also I missed the pics, my PM box is open OP.

CollinsE90 · 11-10-2010, 09:41 PM

WTF op, pics nao

boymonkey · 11-10-2010, 09:44 PM

Haha I saw the pics earlier, nice body.

BMW F22 · 11-10-2010, 10:53 PM

Hmmm...let me first say that although people can fall in (and out of) love quickly, I would kinda bug me if she says ILY so soon. Then again if it's been months then it's fine. As for you, if you don't feel it then you shouldn't have to say it. Just tell her something like "look, thank you for telling me how you feel about me. I really appreciate it. However, I'm not sure if I'm ready to reciprocate the same way. I mean I really like you. I just don't want to toss that word around without really meaning it. I want it to really mean something when I tell it to you."

You could also tell her how you've "blurted" it out before and regretted it. Remember though that she's probably gonna question that too so go with your guts whether to share that or not. This kind of reminds me of this one girl I was with. She told me pretty much what I said above. I didn't understand it at the time. However, one night after sex she hugged me and whispered in my ear "ILU". Let me just say that she was right.

kyleb350 · 11-10-2010, 10:59 PM

No Jay-Z references yet? wow

SunnyD · 11-10-2010, 11:03 PM

what happened to the pics?

Maestro · 11-11-2010, 01:38 PM

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Originally Posted by SunnyD

what happened to the pics?

He realize you all were drooling too much

DougLikesBMW · 11-11-2010, 01:48 PM

Still no PM.

Wtf OP? As a long time legit poster I feel cheated.

CasperSYTFU · 11-11-2010, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Vanity

I'm afraid you've heard wrong there. Saying "I Love You" does not make you a wuss. In fact, it's the opposite. Not saying it means you are, however.

+1

the whole being affectionate makes you a bitch line of thought is bullshit.
if its meant to be then nothings gonna change that.
tell your girl you love her if you do and she'll love that you can express your feelings to her even if your a hard ass to everyone else.

no homo

11-10-2010, 05:47 PM	#25
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11-10-2010, 06:08 PM	#28
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Tondtar 12 yr old Juvie 1,173 REP 881 Posts Drives: His Mom Crazy Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: El Lay iTrader: (2) Garage List 2008 (RIP in 2011) ... [0.00]	piitb Not sure what it is or why but ..... it seems to be the obvious and the best answer for any and all posts dealing with the other gender around here.
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11-10-2010, 07:31 PM	#31
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11-10-2010, 07:36 PM	#32
GP20 Major 102 REP 1,269 Posts Drives: Z4M, F80 M3, 991.2 GTS Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Canada iTrader: (5)	Even if you DO love her, telling it to her would be like shooting yourself in the foot, 'cos then you'd become less of a challenge instantly and she'll start losing attraction for you slowly. And since you aren't even sure if you love her, don't bother saying anything. Just continue dating her. Relaying your feelings for her TO her is not going to make her any more drawn into you; it has the opposite effect. __________________ 2019 Porsche 911 4 GTS 2016 BMW M3 2008 BMW Z4M coupe
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11-10-2010, 09:41 PM	#37
CollinsE90 Where my bitches 806 REP 1,924 Posts Drives: Cadillac coupe deville Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: street corner checking profits iTrader: (0)	WTF op, pics nao __________________
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11-10-2010, 09:44 PM	#38
boymonkey Lieutenant 44 REP 530 Posts Drives: slow Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Canada iTrader: (0)	Haha I saw the pics earlier, nice body.
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11-10-2010, 10:53 PM	#39
BMW F22 Major General 3,730 REP 9,783 Posts Drives: ///M235i Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Bay Area iTrader: (8)	Hmmm...let me first say that although people can fall in (and out of) love quickly, I would kinda bug me if she says ILY so soon. Then again if it's been months then it's fine. As for you, if you don't feel it then you shouldn't have to say it. Just tell her something like "look, thank you for telling me how you feel about me. I really appreciate it. However, I'm not sure if I'm ready to reciprocate the same way. I mean I really like you. I just don't want to toss that word around without really meaning it. I want it to really mean something when I tell it to you." You could also tell her how you've "blurted" it out before and regretted it. Remember though that she's probably gonna question that too so go with your guts whether to share that or not. This kind of reminds me of this one girl I was with. She told me pretty much what I said above. I didn't understand it at the time. However, one night after sex she hugged me and whispered in my ear "ILU". Let me just say that she was right.
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11-10-2010, 10:59 PM	#40
kyleb350 Brigadier General 420 REP 4,710 Posts Drives: '21 X3MC Join Date: Jun 2008 Location: Milwaukee iTrader: (6)	No Jay-Z references yet? wow
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11-11-2010, 01:48 PM	#43
DougLikesBMW Fapmin 470 REP 2,660 Posts Drives: '03 E46 330Ci Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Plano, Texas iTrader: (0)	Still no PM. Wtf OP? As a long time legit poster I feel cheated.
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