[DocL]

Originally Posted by ash_schwin

Never understood when spouses dictate to one another on what car they should and shouldn't buy.

Exactly. Men who are controlled like this need to reconsider their equality in the marriage.

On multiple occasions I've taken a car in for routine service at the dealer, and I ended up trading it in and coming home with a new car. When my wife wants a new car, I tell her to go look for one she likes and we get it. Done.

[jessejericho]

What a grim thread. Yikes.

[jessejericho]

Originally Posted by DocL

Exactly. Men who are controlled like this need to reconsider their equality in the marriage.

On multiple occasions I've taken a car in for routine service at the dealer, and I ended up trading it in and coming home with a new car. When my wife wants a new car, I tell her to go look for one she likes and we get it. Done.

So when you want a car, you just go buy it. When your wife wants one, apparently she has to tell you first and then you "tell her" to go look for one and "we" buy it. See the difference there?

Is this really how fast all of you fuckers are going to be saying this shit out in the open? Jesus Christ.

[DocL]

Originally Posted by Westside Guy

Life is supposed to be a two way street, what ever happened to a "Happy Husband"???

Agreed. Happiness should be equal. Fortunately I don't live by the mantra "happy wife to have a happy life". That's complete bullshit. Fortunately my wife and I are usually on the same page about most everything. Except for how she likes her steak cooked lol. I like rare, she likes burnt beyond recognition.

[DocL]

Originally Posted by jessejericho

So when you want a car, you just go buy it. When your wife wants one, apparently she has to tell you first and then you "tell her" to go look for one and "we" buy it. See the difference there?

Is this really how fast all of you fuckers are going to be saying this shit out in the open? Jesus Christ.

Wrong fucker!

When she wants a new car I tell her to start looking. However it takes her forever to pick a car out. So I just let her take her time and decide what she wants. The last car she wanted I said why not get the new model that is coming out in two months. So she waited and got the newer MB. CAPISCHE!

[BlkGS]

If you have to ask you have already lost

[Efthreeoh]

Take the BMW badges off the car.

[ShocknAwe]

Buy CPO

[oVeRdOsE.]

Originally Posted by Efthreeoh

Take the BMW badges off the car.

like I said, get a Supra and told her this is a Toyota.

win

[p0p]

I know a good divorce lawyers.
We only drive BMWs in our house hold

Maybe she comes with a return warranty?

ChatGPT
1. Understand Her Perspective
Before presenting your case, try to understand where your wife is coming from. There could be concerns about finances, practicality, or even the long-term commitment involved in buying a luxury car. Empathizing with her viewpoint will help you address her concerns more effectively.

2. Show Financial Responsibility
A luxury car like a BMW is a big investment, and your wife might be concerned about how it will impact your finances. Make sure to demonstrate that you’ve thought through the financial aspects of this purchase. This could include:

Affordability: Show her that you can comfortably afford the car without straining your budget or sacrificing other important expenses.
Financial Planning: Have a clear plan for how you will pay for the car (e.g., whether it’s through savings, financing, or leasing).
Long-term Impact: Explain how this decision won’t negatively affect your future financial goals (e.g., retirement savings, paying off debt, etc.).
3. Highlight the Benefits of Owning a BMW
BMWs are known for their performance, safety features, and luxury. Point out how owning one could improve your daily life or even bring practical benefits, such as:

Reliability: BMWs are generally reliable cars and can offer lower long-term maintenance costs than cheaper cars.
Safety: Many BMW models come with cutting-edge safety features, which could be appealing if you have a family.
Resale Value: BMWs tend to hold their value better than other cars, so the investment could pay off when it’s time to sell.
4. Propose a Compromise
If your wife is not fully on board with the idea of buying a BMW, consider offering a compromise:

Test Drive: Suggest visiting a dealership and test-driving the BMW to give her a chance to experience the car firsthand.
Non-Essential Purchases: Promise to reduce or delay other non-essential purchases (e.g., a vacation or another big-ticket item) to make room for the car purchase.
Shared Decision: Let her have input on the model, color, or features to make it a joint decision.
5. Address Practicality Concerns
If the practicality of owning a BMW is an issue (e.g., parking, fuel efficiency, maintenance costs), show that you’ve thought through these concerns:

Fuel Efficiency: If the BMW you want is fuel-efficient, emphasize the long-term savings on gas.
Maintenance: If maintenance costs are a concern, research and share the maintenance schedule and costs, and perhaps explore options like extended warranties.
Parking & Storage: If space is an issue, address where you’ll park the car and how you’ll take care of it.
6. Appeal to Emotional or Lifestyle Benefits
Owning a BMW isn’t just about the car—it’s about the lifestyle it represents. If it’s something you’ve always dreamed of, share that passion with her. Explain how it aligns with your personal goals or aspirations and how it could boost your happiness or quality of life.

7. Be Ready for Compromise
If your wife still isn’t fully convinced, be open to alternatives. You could look at a more affordable BMW model, buy a used one, or agree to wait for a certain time frame. Flexibility shows that you value her input and that the decision doesn’t have to be rushed.

8. Timing Matters
The timing of your conversation is key. If you bring up this topic during a stressful time, your wife might be less receptive. Choose a moment when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood to discuss it.

Example Pitch:
"I’ve been thinking a lot about buying a BMW, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you. I’ve looked into the financials, and I’m confident we can afford it without impacting our other priorities. BMWs are known for their safety features, which I think would be great for us, especially with the family. Plus, they hold their value well, so it’s an investment. I’d love to hear your thoughts and maybe we could even visit a dealership to check them out together?"

By approaching the conversation thoughtfully and respectfully, you’ll increase the chances of a positive outcome!

[ash_schwin]

Originally Posted by tekphobius

Depends on how they contribute. Is she the bread winner? Then she obviously has a say. Are they 50/50? Should still have a say.

I'm the only provider so I kind of do what I want BUT I still run things by her as a courtesy.

We don't know the details of their relationship and how their finances work.

Fully agree 100%. My wife and I always discuss any large financial transactions prior to making them. As long as we agreed on a set budget, she trusts me that I have done my research and am well informed about any car I am looking to buy.

Originally Posted by oVeRdOsE.

I agree in a way when it's your passion, the wife should understand.

but nowadays, yes there's people who ''like'' car, no more , but passionate people are rare-af.

So in that case, when $$ is involved, this can bring some conflict.

Agreed, people shouldn't be going into massive debt just because they 'like' a car. Even if they are die hard passionate about it (like myself), I wouldn't put our finances in jeopardy.

[Redd]

Buy her a Birkin and tell her the car came with it. 🤣

[Mavus]

Originally Posted by zeniicap

Hey guys, so obviously by the title i want to buy a secondhand m340i, but my wife HATES bmw because of how ‘unreliable they are’ and how mechanic shops would be ripping me off when there’s problems s. She also doesn’t understand that half of my buddies are mechanics and we’d be doing most of the work on it ourselves. I want to buy this car because of how big the community is and how easy it is to mod them, and it’s a beautiful car. Any tips on what i should say to her to let me buy the damn car? and any tips i should know when looking for a used one would be helpful aswell. Thanks

obviously she doesn’t know much about cars. Most women don’t and car details should not be discussed except basic idea that car purchase is needed. This is based on my experince after talking to many ladies. Asked one at a party what engine did you get on that benz and she said no idea I just turn it on and go. Another one traded in her Rav 4 years ago because she needed new pads and tires. The list goes on …

So all you need to say is so we agree to get a sedan and that’s great! I will find one and keep you informed.

[c1pher]

If you can afford it and it’s not impacting anything like your future or current quality of life, why is it something you have to ask for? My first wife was like this. I get whatever the hell I want now. My second wife loves me just fine.

[starlights]

Just surprise her!
Easier to ask for forgiveness than permission

[Brandoch]

Just another post engagement with no response.

[ctcarbonari]

Originally Posted by p0p

I know a good divorce lawyers.
We only drive BMWs in our house hold

Maybe she comes with a return warranty?

ChatGPT
1. Understand Her Perspective
Before presenting your case, try to understand where your wife is coming from. There could be concerns about finances, practicality, or even the long-term commitment involved in buying a luxury car. Empathizing with her viewpoint will help you address her concerns more effectively.

2. Show Financial Responsibility
A luxury car like a BMW is a big investment, and your wife might be concerned about how it will impact your finances. Make sure to demonstrate that you’ve thought through the financial aspects of this purchase. This could include:

Affordability: Show her that you can comfortably afford the car without straining your budget or sacrificing other important expenses.
Financial Planning: Have a clear plan for how you will pay for the car (e.g., whether it’s through savings, financing, or leasing).
Long-term Impact: Explain how this decision won’t negatively affect your future financial goals (e.g., retirement savings, paying off debt, etc.).
3. Highlight the Benefits of Owning a BMW
BMWs are known for their performance, safety features, and luxury. Point out how owning one could improve your daily life or even bring practical benefits, such as:

Reliability: BMWs are generally reliable cars and can offer lower long-term maintenance costs than cheaper cars.
Safety: Many BMW models come with cutting-edge safety features, which could be appealing if you have a family.
Resale Value: BMWs tend to hold their value better than other cars, so the investment could pay off when it’s time to sell.
4. Propose a Compromise
If your wife is not fully on board with the idea of buying a BMW, consider offering a compromise:

Test Drive: Suggest visiting a dealership and test-driving the BMW to give her a chance to experience the car firsthand.
Non-Essential Purchases: Promise to reduce or delay other non-essential purchases (e.g., a vacation or another big-ticket item) to make room for the car purchase.
Shared Decision: Let her have input on the model, color, or features to make it a joint decision.
5. Address Practicality Concerns
If the practicality of owning a BMW is an issue (e.g., parking, fuel efficiency, maintenance costs), show that you’ve thought through these concerns:

Fuel Efficiency: If the BMW you want is fuel-efficient, emphasize the long-term savings on gas.
Maintenance: If maintenance costs are a concern, research and share the maintenance schedule and costs, and perhaps explore options like extended warranties.
Parking & Storage: If space is an issue, address where you’ll park the car and how you’ll take care of it.
6. Appeal to Emotional or Lifestyle Benefits
Owning a BMW isn’t just about the car—it’s about the lifestyle it represents. If it’s something you’ve always dreamed of, share that passion with her. Explain how it aligns with your personal goals or aspirations and how it could boost your happiness or quality of life.

7. Be Ready for Compromise
If your wife still isn’t fully convinced, be open to alternatives. You could look at a more affordable BMW model, buy a used one, or agree to wait for a certain time frame. Flexibility shows that you value her input and that the decision doesn’t have to be rushed.

8. Timing Matters
The timing of your conversation is key. If you bring up this topic during a stressful time, your wife might be less receptive. Choose a moment when you’re both relaxed and in a good mood to discuss it.

Example Pitch:
"I’ve been thinking a lot about buying a BMW, and I wanted to share my thoughts with you. I’ve looked into the financials, and I’m confident we can afford it without impacting our other priorities. BMWs are known for their safety features, which I think would be great for us, especially with the family. Plus, they hold their value well, so it’s an investment. I’d love to hear your thoughts and maybe we could even visit a dealership to check them out together?"

By approaching the conversation thoughtfully and respectfully, you’ll increase the chances of a positive outcome!

+1 to the ChatGPT response!!!

I love the episode of Southpark where the boys use ChatGPT to reply to all of their girlfriends' texts. Not only do the girls feel like they have a healthy, deep connection with their boyfriends, but all the boys now have much more free time so they can sit around and play games with each other.

[ried]

Ask her boyfriend.

[wizardofOz]

Originally Posted by Brandoch

Just another post engagement with no response.

Was wondering how the OP got on too..

[ctcarbonari]

Originally Posted by ried

Ask her boyfriend.

lol.....

and don't forget to ask for an increase in your allowance too!
you'll need that to cover the increased service/maintenance costs.

[oVeRdOsE.]

Originally Posted by Brandoch

Just another post engagement with no response.

1 post syndrome.

this is an issue on this forum, at least it keep it alive, most other forums for my other cars are dead

[E90convert]

There is a 1-2% wife gift tax when I buy cars for myself. So, show up with that $400 purse, Dyson blow dryer, or some other luxury she has wanted but can't justify the purchase (until you buy a lovely BMW). We joke that when I show up in a GT3, I better have an LV bag in the passenger seat.