Feeling empty inside

EL Jeffe 5 · 07-23-2017, 09:34 PM

Lost my first cousin Friday he was only 25.
Now I have no desire feeling empty sick no words can describe
I just don't know, I don't care about anything
I was suppose to have lunch with him yesterday
only thing I have now sliding trough txt messages thinking and hoping he will text me.

Needbmwpartzz · 07-23-2017, 09:41 PM

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Originally Posted by EL Jeffe 5

Lost my first cousin Friday he was only 25.
Now I have no desire feeling empty sick no words can describe
I just don't know, I don't care about anything
I was suppose to have lunch with him yesterday
only thing I have now sliding trough txt messages thinking and hoping he will text me.

My condolences.
Things will get better man,i know it's hard to loose people in life but cherish the people you still do have and celebrate his life the best you know how.
If you stay sad too long please reach out and tell someone!
GL OP

BMW F22 · 07-23-2017, 09:44 PM

damn, sorry to hear man. My condolences. what happened?

PINeely · 07-23-2017, 09:46 PM

I am so sorry. Genuinely.

Mr Tonka · 07-23-2017, 10:50 PM

Sorry to hear that boss. That must be very difficult to cope with.

Try an think of what you're cousin would want you to do and how he would want you to feel.

Think about the good times you had and realized those memories will never be taken from you.

It'll be difficult, but try and stay positive.

PINeely · 07-23-2017, 11:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Mr Tonka

Sorry to hear that boss. That must be very difficult to cope with.

Try an think of what you're cousin would want you to do and how he would want you to feel.

Think about the good times you had and realized those memories will never be taken from you.

It'll be difficult, but try and stay positive.

Exactly. You had the privilege to spend the time with him that you did and nothing, not even the way you are feeling now, can take that away from you. Ever.

jgoens · 07-23-2017, 11:01 PM

Condolences. Nothing said now will really help as only time heals--try to bring family and friends around. The loss will never go away but it will numb over time.

bimmette · 07-23-2017, 11:05 PM

Really sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve. Only time will heal. You'll never forget him but the pain will get a little easier.

Samurai of 2day · 07-24-2017, 12:11 AM

Stay strong, OP. Focus on the good times you shared with your Cousin. Those memories will keep him alive in your heart.

Losing close friends and family is always a difficult event to deal with, so at any time you are feeling drained or weak, reach out to the people you trust and love so they can lend you their strength and you all will get through these difficult times together.

As you can see, we are all here for you as well. Time will heal the pain, so spend that time with your loved ones and you will all heal together.

Petrolhead3010 · 07-24-2017, 07:34 AM

As others have said; stay strong. Focus on the good times. Whenever I've had a loved one pass, I always focus on silly moments. The simple thought of us laughing forced me to physically smile. Which, I believe, helped more than any other memory.

Just sit back, think of all the awesome times you had with your cousin, & say to yourself "Damn those were good times".

nyalpine90 · 07-24-2017, 09:35 AM

its always difficult to cope when relative/friend passes away
unexpected. Remember them as they wish, keep their great memories at heart
sorry for your loss!

///M Power-Belgium · 07-24-2017, 10:44 AM

I know that feeling and for sure that feels really bad .
I saw my grandmother and my dad die ( may they RIP )

My condolences for your cousin , and stay strong man..

Memaxndapickel · 07-24-2017, 03:43 PM

So sorry to hear man, my condolences.

Daftasabrush · 07-24-2017, 04:28 PM

Man that's shit. That's grief, it does this to you. Cliché but time WILL heal, don't kid yourself, you won't get 'over' it, but time makes it feel better. It's just crap right now.

SpacegrayMe90 · 07-24-2017, 04:40 PM

Sorry for your loss, my condolences. Time heals all.

jlo0109 · 07-24-2017, 05:16 PM

Buddy my most sincere and utter condolences. I've recently lost someone close to me as well and the feeling of nothing else matters anymore is inevitable. For a week straight, I did not want to go anywhere. I didn't each much. I didn't sleep much. I cried sporadically and I can barely pick myself up and go to a grocery store. In time, I've realized that it's not about what has ended but what has happened that matter the most. Yes, it still gets me whenever I think about the person. But on the plus side, I am glad that I forever met the person and had the memory that I had. Time will heal everything. Grief is part of the healing process, so don't hold anything in. Best of wishes bud.

-JL

tranquility · 07-24-2017, 05:30 PM

Sorry to hear about the bad news. Take care.

EL Jeffe 5 · 07-25-2017, 11:01 AM

Thank you all From bottom of my heart for kind words I means a lot.
Yesterday we buried him it was beautiful funeral he would be proud.

UncleWede · 07-25-2017, 02:48 PM

I STILL remember this when my older "brother" died as a senior in high school. Dave still lives in my heart all these decades later.

By Mary Elizabeth Frye

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there; I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow,
I am the diamond glints on snow,
I am the sun on ripened grain,
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry,
I am not there; I did not die.

NFiftyWon · 07-25-2017, 05:27 PM

Passing of a loved one can be hard. Seeing a therapist could definitely help. It did for me

bosstones · 07-25-2017, 10:43 PM

Sorry to hear it, Jefe. Hang in there. My condolences to you and your family.

///3dkn · 07-26-2017, 02:10 AM

My condolences. I know what it feels like to lose someone close to you. Please reach out to family and friends if you need to talk to someone.

Sorry for your loss.

07-23-2017, 09:34 PM	#1
EL Jeffe 5 Major 631 Rep 1,255 Posts Drives: CBR1000RR Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Iowa iTrader: (0)	Feeling empty inside Lost my first cousin Friday he was only 25. Now I have no desire feeling empty sick no words can describe I just don't know, I don't care about anything I was suppose to have lunch with him yesterday only thing I have now sliding trough txt messages thinking and hoping he will text me. __________________
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07-23-2017, 09:44 PM	#3
BMW F22 Major General 3659 Rep 9,783 Posts Drives: ///M235i Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Bay Area iTrader: (8)	damn, sorry to hear man. My condolences. what happened?
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07-23-2017, 09:46 PM	#4
PINeely Lieutenant Colonel 1080 Rep 1,912 Posts Drives: 2013 535i, 2015 Tundra 1794 Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Jackson, MS iTrader: (2)	I am so sorry. Genuinely.
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Mr Tonka is probably out riding. 6061 Rep 2,292 Posts Drives: Something Italian Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Sweatypeninsula iTrader: (0)	Sorry to hear that boss. That must be very difficult to cope with. Try an think of what you're cousin would want you to do and how he would want you to feel. Think about the good times you had and realized those memories will never be taken from you. It'll be difficult, but try and stay positive. __________________ "There is no greater tyranny than that which is perpetrated under the shield of the law and in the name of justice. -Charles de Secondat"
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07-23-2017, 11:01 PM	#7
jgoens Major General 3829 Rep 5,776 Posts Drives: 2013 335i msport Join Date: Nov 2014 Location: San Mateo, CA iTrader: (0)	Condolences. Nothing said now will really help as only time heals--try to bring family and friends around. The loss will never go away but it will numb over time. __________________ 2013 335i Msport Black sapphire/Coral red. MHD. stage 2--e30 VRSF DP, ER CP, Dinan Shockware. VRSF 12mm/15mm spacers. Cobra dashcam. Various codings. Last car: 2011 335i Msport. JB4. Vrsf CP
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07-23-2017, 11:05 PM	#8
bimmette YouTube.com/TvTara 6436 Rep 4,714 Posts Drives: like I stole it! (11 m3 E93) Join Date: Nov 2013 Location: Vancouver iTrader: (0)	Really sorry for your loss. Take time to grieve. Only time will heal. You'll never forget him but the pain will get a little easier. __________________ Watch my DIY mods at: YouTube/TvTara Follow me on Instagram at: TvTara1
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07-24-2017, 12:11 AM	#9
Samurai of 2day Major 2317 Rep 1,260 Posts Drives: '22 X6M/'21 S1Krr Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Everywhere and Nowhere iTrader: (0)	Stay strong, OP. Focus on the good times you shared with your Cousin. Those memories will keep him alive in your heart. Losing close friends and family is always a difficult event to deal with, so at any time you are feeling drained or weak, reach out to the people you trust and love so they can lend you their strength and you all will get through these difficult times together. As you can see, we are all here for you as well. Time will heal the pain, so spend that time with your loved ones and you will all heal together. __________________ Too smart for my own good...
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07-24-2017, 07:34 AM	#10
Petrolhead3010 Second Lieutenant 54 Rep 252 Posts Drives: 2021 BMW X3 M40i Join Date: Aug 2014 Location: Marysville iTrader: (0)	As others have said; stay strong. Focus on the good times. Whenever I've had a loved one pass, I always focus on silly moments. The simple thought of us laughing forced me to physically smile. Which, I believe, helped more than any other memory. Just sit back, think of all the awesome times you had with your cousin, & say to yourself "Damn those were good times".
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07-24-2017, 09:35 AM	#11
nyalpine90 Lieutenant General 7552 Rep 11,936 Posts Drives: MY24 G01 AW Msport Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: L.I. NY iTrader: (4) Garage List 2016 BMW X4 [9.25]	its always difficult to cope when relative/friend passes away unexpected. Remember them as they wish, keep their great memories at heart sorry for your loss!
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07-24-2017, 10:44 AM	#12
///M Power-Belgium General 71105 Rep 26,716 Posts Drives: ///M3-E92-DCT Silverstone II Join Date: Jul 2012 Location: Belgium iTrader: (0)	I know that feeling and for sure that feels really bad . I saw my grandmother and my dad die ( may they RIP ) My condolences for your cousin , and stay strong man.. __________________ "MAX VERSTAPPEN" IS THE 2021+2022+2023+2024 F1 WORLD CHAMPION - #UnLeashTheLion - BPM DEV-Tune & DCT Software-Tune & Servotronic & coding ///Alpine HID Angeleyes ///Oem.exhaust mod.
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07-24-2017, 03:43 PM	#13
Memaxndapickel Second Lieutenant 113 Rep 231 Posts Drives: 2008 335i Join Date: Sep 2015 Location: Philadelphia iTrader: (0)	So sorry to hear man, my condolences.
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07-24-2017, 04:28 PM	#14
Daftasabrush Fool 1814 Rep 3,542 Posts Drives: F31 340i Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: England iTrader: (0)	Man that's shit. That's grief, it does this to you. Cliché but time WILL heal, don't kid yourself, you won't get 'over' it, but time makes it feel better. It's just crap right now. __________________
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07-24-2017, 04:40 PM	#15
SpacegrayMe90 First Lieutenant 141 Rep 377 Posts Drives: 2010 e90M3 Join Date: Apr 2012 Location: NYC iTrader: (0)	Sorry for your loss, my condolences. Time heals all.
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07-24-2017, 05:16 PM	#16
jlo0109 Private First Class 50 Rep 107 Posts Drives: feet Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: United States iTrader: (0)	Buddy my most sincere and utter condolences. I've recently lost someone close to me as well and the feeling of nothing else matters anymore is inevitable. For a week straight, I did not want to go anywhere. I didn't each much. I didn't sleep much. I cried sporadically and I can barely pick myself up and go to a grocery store. In time, I've realized that it's not about what has ended but what has happened that matter the most. Yes, it still gets me whenever I think about the person. But on the plus side, I am glad that I forever met the person and had the memory that I had. Time will heal everything. Grief is part of the healing process, so don't hold anything in. Best of wishes bud. -JL
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07-24-2017, 05:30 PM	#17
tranquility sportscars only 3477 Rep 3,269 Posts Drives: 2011 Z4 sDrive 35i Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Montréal iTrader: (0)	Sorry to hear about the bad news. Take care.
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07-25-2017, 11:01 AM	#18
EL Jeffe 5 Major 631 Rep 1,255 Posts Drives: CBR1000RR Join Date: Aug 2015 Location: Iowa iTrader: (0)	Thank you all From bottom of my heart for kind words I means a lot. Yesterday we buried him it was beautiful funeral he would be proud. __________________
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07-25-2017, 02:48 PM	#19
UncleWede Long Time Admirer, First Time Owner 18452 Rep 9,428 Posts Drives: G01 X3 M40i Dark Graphite Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: Oxnard, CA iTrader: (0)	I STILL remember this when my older "brother" died as a senior in high school. Dave still lives in my heart all these decades later. By Mary Elizabeth Frye Do not stand at my grave and weep I am not there; I do not sleep. I am a thousand winds that blow, I am the diamond glints on snow, I am the sun on ripened grain, I am the gentle autumn rain. When you awaken in the morning's hush I am the swift uplifting rush Of quiet birds in circled flight. I am the soft stars that shine at night. Do not stand at my grave and cry, I am not there; I did not die.
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NFiftyWon Second Lieutenant 98 Rep 239 Posts Drives: E90 LCI 328 X-Drive Join Date: Jun 2017 Location: Colorado Springs iTrader: (0)	Passing of a loved one can be hard. Seeing a therapist could definitely help. It did for me
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07-25-2017, 10:43 PM	#21
bosstones Lieutenant Colonel 1245 Rep 1,596 Posts Drives: o_0 Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Suburbia iTrader: (0)	Sorry to hear it, Jefe. Hang in there. My condolences to you and your family. __________________ - Jeff bosstones' flickr
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07-26-2017, 02:10 AM	#22
///3dkn Major 1487 Rep 1,386 Posts Drives: F87 M2C Join Date: Jan 2012 Location: Unknown iTrader: (9)	My condolences. I know what it feels like to lose someone close to you. Please reach out to family and friends if you need to talk to someone. Sorry for your loss.
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