Am I right or wrong, need opinions

jj thumper · 09-17-2008, 07:44 PM

A poll question about life

I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. I love her and she is perfect for me. She is everything a man could want. Being a man, my mind wanders and I find myself still chasing other females and I have cheated on her. I don’t think i am wrong in doing so. If I am a supportive husband and father I don’t see how this makes me a bad guy.

Life is never black or white, it’s always gray.

Do you agree? Or am I wrong.

aut0sh0cker · 09-17-2008, 08:00 PM

that depends, how recently/and how often have you cheated?

stooken · 09-17-2008, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

that depends, how recently/and how often have you cheated?

agreed.

and just because you're a supporting husband and father does not wash away what you did.

40yroldawakening · 09-17-2008, 08:06 PM

how old are the both of you

jj thumper · 09-17-2008, 08:09 PM

I cheated 3 times over 2 years. I am 27 years old.

Tondtar · 09-17-2008, 08:19 PM

A Girlfriend can only dump you.

A wife can take you to the cleaners and make you pay through the nose for years to come after a nasty divorce, etc.

There is an answer there for you somewhere

aut0sh0cker · 09-17-2008, 08:30 PM

PRENUP!

bolinp78 · 09-17-2008, 08:33 PM

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Originally Posted by jj thumper

A poll question about life

I have a girlfriend that I plan to marry. I love her and she is perfect for me. She is everything a man could want. Being a man, my mind wanders and I find myself still chasing other females and I have cheated on her. I don’t think i am wrong in doing so. If I am a supportive husband and father I don’t see how this makes me a bad guy.

Life is never black or white, it’s always gray.

Do you agree? Or am I wrong.

You're really trying to rationalize your decision(s) to make yourself feel better, aren't you'?

e90AW335i · 09-17-2008, 09:37 PM

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Originally Posted by aut0sh0cker

PRENUP!

That only protects what you have now, not what you make "together" during the marriage.

BMdblU · 09-17-2008, 10:13 PM

3 times with 3 different girls? Or the same one on separate occasions?

ZJP · 09-17-2008, 10:17 PM

Threads like these boggle my mind.

stooken · 09-17-2008, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by bolinp78

You're really trying to rationalize your decision(s) to make yourself feel better, aren't you'?

+1

and if you think you're gonna cheat again then your relationship has a problem or you just have issues you need to sort out before you put someone elses feelings on the line.

DougLikesBMW · 09-17-2008, 10:24 PM

Wow. That's fucked up dude. You're fucked up. There is no justification for cheating no matter how you twist and turn your words. Break up with her because she is too good for you.

Sara · 09-17-2008, 10:37 PM

I cannot believe you would do that to a girl you plan on marrying. That is pure selfishness. I hope you get herpes from the girl you cheated on her with.

The_Blob · 09-17-2008, 10:42 PM

Dude, you're not ready to marry.

'Cane · 09-17-2008, 11:02 PM

You're just trying to justify your infidelity. Grow up.

easyman · 09-18-2008, 01:05 AM

dude im guilty too. but put the shoe on the other foot. It would not be cool if she cheated on you

!Xoible · 09-18-2008, 01:15 AM

how can u claim u love someone and u dont even respect them? unless u 2 are swingers, but u make it sound like ur cheating... i mean u said it foo... "cheating"

NaTuReB0Y · 09-18-2008, 01:17 AM

pics or ban............

jj thumper · 09-18-2008, 01:52 AM

It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend.

Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great.

She is happy, that’s what counts.

DougLikesBMW · 09-18-2008, 02:24 AM

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Originally Posted by jj thumper

It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend.

Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great.

She is happy, that’s what counts.

Typing from our soapboxes? Seriously dude, any person with at least some respect for the person that they are in a relationship with, for themselves, and any morals would not cheat. It is unbelievably disrespectful to that person being cheated on. Just because it doesn't affect you doesn't make a difference. If you think it's no big deal, please go tell her and don't come back crying to us when your she lobs off your tallywhacker and feeds it to some fish. Please don't marry this girl, she's too good for a lying, cheating scumbag. And whoopdie-fucking-doo if you pay her expenses, why the hell should that make it any more "okay"?

quagmire · 09-18-2008, 02:32 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by jj thumper

It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend.

Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great.

She is happy, that’s what counts.

Her being able to trust you counts as well......

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jj thumper Private First Class 46 Rep 166 Posts Drives: 335is Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Oakland Ca iTrader: (0)	I cheated 3 times over 2 years. I am 27 years old.
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Tondtar 12 yr old Juvie 1137 Rep 881 Posts Drives: His Mom Crazy Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: El Lay iTrader: (2) Garage List 2008 (RIP in 2011) ... [0.00]	A Girlfriend can only dump you. A wife can take you to the cleaners and make you pay through the nose for years to come after a nasty divorce, etc. There is an answer there for you somewhere
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09-17-2008, 08:30 PM	#7
aut0sh0cker meh 125 Rep 1,752 Posts Drives: E92 335i, 997.2 C4S Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: 91362 iTrader: (2)	PRENUP!
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BMdblU Brigadier General 154 Rep 3,983 Posts Drives: F80 Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Toronto iTrader: (2)	3 times with 3 different girls? Or the same one on separate occasions?
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ZJP Lieutenant Colonel 136 Rep 1,759 Posts Drives: F10 535xi / B6 S4 Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: LI, NY iTrader: (7)	Threads like these boggle my mind.
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DougLikesBMW Fapmin 435 Rep 2,660 Posts Drives: '03 E46 330Ci Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Plano, Texas iTrader: (0)	Wow. That's fucked up dude. You're fucked up. There is no justification for cheating no matter how you twist and turn your words. Break up with her because she is too good for you.
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Sara Lieutenant General 5885 Rep 17,879 Posts Drives: A car Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Nola iTrader: (6)	I cannot believe you would do that to a girl you plan on marrying. That is pure selfishness. I hope you get herpes from the girl you cheated on her with.
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The_Blob Second Lieutenant 503 Rep 298 Posts Drives: 2008 E92 335i Join Date: Dec 2005 Location: Canada iTrader: (0)	Dude, you're not ready to marry.
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jj thumper Private First Class 46 Rep 166 Posts Drives: 335is Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Oakland Ca iTrader: (0)	It seems as if people are typing from their soapboxes. I highly doubt most men would turn down relations when the opportunity presents itself. It doesn’t affect my love for my girlfriend. Every time I see her I am excited; even still, and vice versa, I pay all her expenses as she starts her career as an artist and our families get along great. She is happy, that’s what counts.
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