Need Advice..How to tell your girl she needs to go to the gym????

DrockNJ · 05-06-2010, 12:52 PM

exactly what the topic says. We've been together for a year, and we're pretty serious. from the time that we started dating to now she probably put on about 15-20lbs...and i kind of want to nip it in the butt now...the main issue is that i know it's really affecting her..by that i mean she won't go to certain places or do certain things because she feels out of place because of her weight...and she's only about 150lbs now...i try to take her to the gym with me all the time but she doesn't want to go...How do i convince her that it's really time to start working out and get back in shape...

Peanuto · 05-06-2010, 12:57 PM

Only advice is saying "Hey honey, why don't we go to the gym together? It will be more time we are together." I don't know. So many ways that could go sooo wrong.

BigGuyM3 · 05-06-2010, 12:57 PM

This what i would do: Stop asking her to go to the gym with you, dont act like lilttle girl, act like a man, come home one day, tell her to get ready to go with you and dont give her much of a choice, just tell her get ready we are leave in 15mins, be a man and make her follow you,(dont be a forceful dushbag lol) just be a man.

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

exactly what the topic says. We've been together for a year, and we're pretty serious. from the time that we started dating to now she probably put on about 15-20lbs...and i kind of want to nip it in the butt now...the main issue is that i know it's really affecting her..by that i mean she won't go to certain places or do certain things because she feels out of place because of her weight...and she's only about 150lbs now...i try to take her to the gym with me all the time but she doesn't want to go...How do i convince her that it's really time to start working out and get back in shape...

Cosmop · 05-06-2010, 12:59 PM

Put a padlock on the fridge

Blake · 05-06-2010, 12:59 PM

"put down the fork, fatass, and go to the gym" she'll understand

iBoost · 05-06-2010, 12:59 PM

Tell her she's starting to look like a fat-ass cow. Straight up.

jk idk

TurboFan · 05-06-2010, 01:04 PM

Hide a gym membership at the bottom of the cookie jar.

Make beeping noises when she backs up.

TurboFan · 05-06-2010, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Cosmop

Put a padlock on the fridge

with a note that the key is hidden at the gym somewhere.

Peanuto · 05-06-2010, 01:05 PM

Dude, you better have a comfortable couch, cuz that's where your ass is gonna be sleeping the next month if you don't handle this right.

CollinsE90 · 05-06-2010, 01:07 PM

ask her to start running with you, and then she will start to want to workout as well

335R1 · 05-06-2010, 01:07 PM

I had the same dilemma except my girl is 5'3 125ibs. She used to be 112-115ibs. I don't mind the extra as much, but that stomache needs to stay flat and love handles can't be around. I'm a gym rat myself and stay in great shape. My exact words to her was, if I stay in shape and take care of my body for you, the least you can do is return the favor. I'll make sure to comment on other girls bodies when we're watching a movie.

She goes to the gym now and down to 118ibs from last month.

Iron Rob · 05-06-2010, 01:07 PM

Very sensitive subject.

chungdae · 05-06-2010, 01:08 PM

Buy a scale and put it in the bathroom.

ktdw · 05-06-2010, 01:11 PM

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Originally Posted by DrockNJ

she's only about 150lbs.

I hope she's over 6'...

CollinsE90 · 05-06-2010, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by chungdae

Buy a scale and put it in the bathroom.

and the car, and the living room, and her work

DrockNJ · 05-06-2010, 01:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Peanuto

Dude, you better have a comfortable couch, cuz that's where your ass is gonna be sleeping the next month if you don't handle this right.

exactly...

Peanuto · 05-06-2010, 01:19 PM

Put a bear trap in front of the fridge. If the weight on it gets over 135 it snaps.

CollinsE90 · 05-06-2010, 01:22 PM

my comment up above was rude, you care a lot about this girl and i shouldnt have made that remark...if she cares about you, like you do her just sit her down and talk to her like a human, and if she blows up that is your answer

ragingclue · 05-06-2010, 01:28 PM

Ask her to go to the gym with you.

coh4777 · 05-06-2010, 01:32 PM

Damn that's a tough one! You know maybe she just needs a structured program. Sometimes girls (and guys too) can get intimidated about going to the gym especially if they feel like they are out of shape. Maybe that's why she doesn't want to go with you. So maybe see if she wants to try something at home like p90x. Or otherwise maybe when you go to the gym, try to take a class with her. Something fun like cardio kickboxing, spinning or even yoga if you are willing to do it. Maybe the class environment will appeal to her more than just aimlessly running on treadmills or grabbing free weights. Of course that will mean that you will have to alter your own routine...

JayKay335i · 05-06-2010, 01:33 PM

Be honest with her and tell her. Tell her youre also concerned about her health. If she refuses to go to the gym when you offer, shes happy being a fatty.

DougLikesBMW · 05-06-2010, 01:44 PM

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Originally Posted by 335R1

I had the same dilemma except my girl is 5'3 125ibs. She used to be 112-115ibs. I don't mind the extra as much, but that stomache needs to stay flat and love handles can't be around. I'm a gym rat myself and stay in great shape. My exact words to her was, if I stay in shape and take care of my body for you, the least you can do is return the favor. I'll make sure to comment on other girls bodies when we're watching a movie.

She goes to the gym now and down to 118ibs from last month.

This. Just tell her straight up. Don't pussyfoot around the subject.

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335R1 Private First Class 34 Rep 108 Posts Drives: F30 335i Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Connecticut iTrader: (0)	I had the same dilemma except my girl is 5'3 125ibs. She used to be 112-115ibs. I don't mind the extra as much, but that stomache needs to stay flat and love handles can't be around. I'm a gym rat myself and stay in great shape. My exact words to her was, if I stay in shape and take care of my body for you, the least you can do is return the favor. I'll make sure to comment on other girls bodies when we're watching a movie. She goes to the gym now and down to 118ibs from last month.
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