Would you ever...?

BMW F22 · 10-30-2011, 12:03 PM

So I've been curious about something but never got around to asking what people think. I just remembered it recently and thought I should post a poll to see what you guys feel about a certain topic.

Would you take back someone who's cheated on you?

I believe relationships are a sensitive/popular topic and I understand that people might have different opinions. However, I'm curious how you guys feel about this particular issue. This is just for fun btw. lol

Edit: if possible please elaborate on your answer too.

Quick6EF · 10-30-2011, 12:04 PM

You want to say no, but only until you're in it would you know what to do.

BMWinNorthdakota · 10-30-2011, 12:08 PM

A full fledged fuckfest w/ another dude? hell no..

A drunken kiss.. I'll consider.

crimsonred335is · 10-30-2011, 12:22 PM

IMO it depends on so many factors at the moment you find out... such as if you have a family, if the relationship is already going down the drain, or how your life/general situation is going (happiness, financial stability, etc.). As far as I know, the reason most people cheat is because they are not receiving the attention they feel they deserve.

I would personally not take them back, but under rare situations I would go the extra mile to save the relationship.

Express · 10-30-2011, 12:23 PM

once a cheater always a cheater.

FWB still works though

Wakka · 10-30-2011, 01:04 PM

I have cheated and been taken back and been cheated on and forgave it. Both relationships went down the drain eventually.

ideliver · 10-30-2011, 01:06 PM

Absolutely. I've been married 17 years. Relationships have their ups and downs. What matters the most us how she treats me. People are fallible and make mistakes. No mistake is unforgivable. To me, this is unconditional love.

The Ghost of Tom Joad · 10-30-2011, 01:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Wakka

I have cheated and been taken back and been cheated on and forgave it. Both relationships went down the drain eventually.

This

Q4P · 10-30-2011, 01:16 PM

Remember one thing, if it happened once, it more than likely will happen again.

WWONG · 10-30-2011, 01:28 PM

Kill bitches

Vanity · 10-30-2011, 01:31 PM

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Originally Posted by WWONG

Kill bitches

with fire

bmw325i · 10-30-2011, 02:30 PM

Depends on the situation depending on how you feel about the person and whether or not you think she'll do it again that said most likely no.

PKL · 10-30-2011, 02:32 PM

No

Vanity · 10-30-2011, 02:39 PM

You established a high level of trust with her the first time around, with a clean slate. Try establishing that level of trust again the second time around, with her having taken it upon herself to hurt you and break your trust.

Only exception would be in marriage, and a very lengthy marriage at that.

dziqsek · 10-30-2011, 03:05 PM

No!!!! It's a good reason for divorce from fault on the partner, so you need not give her 50% of joint property, optionally an agreement, and children can be with you

bmwmike335 · 10-30-2011, 03:39 PM

i would.. only for a day so i can fuck her brains out blow my L on her F and say cyaaaa later hoe!

BMW F22 · 10-30-2011, 04:35 PM

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Originally Posted by ideliver

Absolutely. I've been married 17 years. Relationships have their ups and downs. What matters the most us how she treats me. People are fallible and make mistakes. No mistake is unforgivable. To me, this is unconditional love.

I somewhat agree with this statement. It's true that some things are forgivable. However, such things as cheating is on another level IMO. Personally I would be scared because it's always going to hang in the back of my mind. That makes me wonder if I would ever be able to trust that person again. Of course it depends on the individuals involved but for the most part people would say no.

CollinsE90 · 10-30-2011, 04:58 PM

No, and I'm too hungover to elaborate and debate.

Nifty · 10-30-2011, 05:10 PM

No. I don't think you can truly trust someone again if they cheat on you, and without trust you're doomed to failure and or misery.

Wolf · 10-30-2011, 06:07 PM

who wants to chew a used chewing gum?

silvergray545 · 10-30-2011, 06:14 PM

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Originally Posted by CollinsE90

No, and I'm too hungover to elaborate and debate.

+1

shazzy04 · 10-30-2011, 06:22 PM

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Originally Posted by Wolf

who wants to chew a used chewing gum?

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BMW F22 Major General 3659 Rep 9,783 Posts Drives: ///M235i Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Bay Area iTrader: (8)	Would you ever...? So I've been curious about something but never got around to asking what people think. I just remembered it recently and thought I should post a poll to see what you guys feel about a certain topic. Would you take back someone who's cheated on you? I believe relationships are a sensitive/popular topic and I understand that people might have different opinions. However, I'm curious how you guys feel about this particular issue. This is just for fun btw. lol Edit: if possible please elaborate on your answer too. Last edited by BMW F22; 10-30-2011 at 12:10 PM..
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BMWinNorthdakota Banned 254 Rep 1,106 Posts Drives: 2007 bmw 335i e90 Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Fargo ND iTrader: (0)	A full fledged fuckfest w/ another dude? hell no.. A drunken kiss.. I'll consider.
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crimsonred335is Private 16 Rep 56 Posts Drives: a car Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Los Angeles iTrader: (0)	IMO it depends on so many factors at the moment you find out... such as if you have a family, if the relationship is already going down the drain, or how your life/general situation is going (happiness, financial stability, etc.). As far as I know, the reason most people cheat is because they are not receiving the attention they feel they deserve. I would personally not take them back, but under rare situations I would go the extra mile to save the relationship.
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Express Major General 378 Rep 8,688 Posts Drives: 06 330i Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: The Promise Land iTrader: (17) Garage List 2006 BMW 330i [8.30]	once a cheater always a cheater. FWB still works though
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WWONG Banned 110 Rep 1,830 Posts Drives: 2012 BMW X5 xDrive35d Join Date: May 2010 Location: Houston, TX iTrader: (14)	Kill bitches
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Vanity Private First Class 275 Rep 123 Posts Drives: BMW E90 LCI Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: BC, Canada iTrader: (0)	You established a high level of trust with her the first time around, with a clean slate. Try establishing that level of trust again the second time around, with her having taken it upon herself to hurt you and break your trust. Only exception would be in marriage, and a very lengthy marriage at that. __________________
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dziqsek Banned 90 Rep 111 Posts Drives: 2008 E91 320d Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: JG, Poland iTrader: (0)	No!!!! It's a good reason for divorce from fault on the partner, so you need not give her 50% of joint property, optionally an agreement, and children can be with you
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Nifty Second Lieutenant 74 Rep 268 Posts Drives: 2022 AWD M3 Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Illinois iTrader: (1)	No. I don't think you can truly trust someone again if they cheat on you, and without trust you're doomed to failure and or misery.
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