[Neurorad]

Originally Posted by epbrown

There's a character in Larry Niven's novels named Louis Wu, who lives for a thousand years. Louis' reaction to life's setbacks is always the same: "I'm going to get over this sometime - why not now?"

I also recommending taking comfort in one eternal truth: The Dude abides.

Ringworld rocks. Luck is genetic.

[out4scrilla]

honestly go on a fuck spree

[Sam Da Man]

if u have tried to work sumting out and she still doesnt want you then u need to start going out and dating girls..you need to show her that your not weak..give her space..dont talk to her for like a month or two, but deff get out and talk to girls..and have fun with ur friends to get your mind off things...after a month if you still want her hit her up and see if she wants to just meet up for some cofee or w.e to hang, deff be outgoing and cocky and bring up convos to show her your seeing other gurls..jelousy can make ppl do crazy things bro...deff dont be her friend!!!! once your friends it done..just stop talking to her and give her some space and u try again..but dont be weak!

[135Driver]

Run man. Sorry for your loss. She wants space now, imagine what she'll be pulling another 5 years from now. Save yourself a divorce. People never change.

[FrankoQ]

let it go.
move on.

[Sneeze]

You are the only one who can solve your problem.
Clear your mind then if you still feel the same way...
Listen to yourself and don't listen to others.
Whatever your decision make sure dont regret it.

Nowadays is hard to find someone and stay with you for 5 years.

[Shake]

God damn bro, that really sucks after 5 years.

Time to go out and find some other girls...time will heal

[SDTopless]

in the words of George Lopez, "Fuck that puto!"

however, in this case "puta." nothing personal about her, just the situation

confront her, tell her what you think (i think it's another guy b/c there shouldn't be any other reason), ask her if she thinks it's worth it, then tell her what the past 5 yrs meant to you. don't condemn her, let her realize what she may be doing. then whip it out & actually show her what she'll be missing. <--- don't listen to that last part

[TheSpungos]

Originally Posted by FrankoQ

let it go.
move on.

+1

If after 5 years together she's not upfront enough to tell you what's going on/why she feels that way, then it's time to move on.

Sucks now, but it'll get better.

[Oregano123]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

no offense but five years is a long time to be someones gf.... people get bored of waiting for the other person to "come around"


youll be ok though

come around?

[!Xoible]

Originally Posted by OC 335i

she's riding someone else.

listen to this man, he's a dick, and dicks only tell the truth.

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by bmwhype

come around?

yes like marriage, etc... OP didnt give details about his intentions... like i said... id have a hard time dating someone for 5 years without the idea of marriage being thrown around

[Big Windy]

Originally Posted by out4scrilla

honestly go on a fuck spree

+1. not the best advice, but I have to side with out4scrilla.

[Oregano123]

Originally Posted by ZGirl4U

yes like marriage, etc... OP didnt give details about his intentions... like i said... id have a hard time dating someone for 5 years without the idea of marriage being thrown around

hmmm...if i dangle the marriage carrot without showing the engagement ring, would that be a good idea?

[SteelTorque]

There MUST be a reason why she's acting the way she is.

I say TALK to her and find out what needs to be done.

If she's not interested in talking, then you must move on....

Relationships suck nowadays. They aren't what they used to be.

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by bmwhype

hmmm...if i dangle the marriage carrot without showing the engagement ring, would that be a good idea?

missing the point..... one would think that after that much time, the topic would come up, he would make a move, etc...

[F87LUV]

Originally Posted by SteelTorque

There MUST be a reason why she's acting the way she is.

I say TALK to her and find out what needs to be done.

If she's not interested in talking, then you must move on....

Relationships suck nowadays. They aren't what they used to be.

[Neema]

Originally Posted by Sam Da Man

if u have tried to work sumting out and she still doesnt want you then u need to start going out and dating girls..you need to show her that your not weak..give her space..dont talk to her for like a month or two, but deff get out and talk to girls..and have fun with ur friends to get your mind off things...after a month if you still want her hit her up and see if she wants to just meet up for some cofee or w.e to hang, deff be outgoing and cocky and bring up convos to show her your seeing other gurls..jelousy can make ppl do crazy things bro...deff dont be her friend!!!! once your friends it done..just stop talking to her and give her some space and u try again..but dont be weak!

I agree that you need to show your resilience. You need to show her that your totally fine without her, if not better.

Originally Posted by 135Driver

Run man. Sorry for your loss. She wants space now, imagine what she'll be pulling another 5 years from now. Save yourself a divorce. People never change.

+1

Originally Posted by thr33fivei

You are the only one who can solve your problem.
Clear your mind then if you still feel the same way...
Listen to yourself and don't listen to others.
Whatever your decision make sure dont regret it.

Nowadays is hard to find someone and stay with you for 5 years.

True, but its nice to take in all the different advice and make sense of it for yourself. He might have called her or texted her too much, or said sappy things that would have further ruined things had someone not told him to stay strong and make it look like you dont give a f**k, or whatever....i'm just using that as an example.

Listen to yourself, but take the advice in to consideration too....

Originally Posted by SteelTorque

There MUST be a reason why she's acting the way she is.

I say TALK to her and find out what needs to be done.

If she's not interested in talking, then you must move on....

Relationships suck nowadays. They aren't what they used to be.

+1

She's either over it/bored.......or seeing someone else. Or maybe un happy with the way things have been lately or whatever. But just leaving someone hanging like that is bullshit, on her part.

[sparkyg]

Sorry to hear for all who broke up, sounds like a couple of people have had some personal changes.

I agree, keep busy, refocus on yourself and do the things that you feel you couldn't.

Better yet, time to stretch yourself, do things you wouldn't do, do some personal growth, that will help bring the next person to you.

Whatever you do, do it. We all need to keep changing and evolving.

GL, in time, all things will pass.

[Robertbog]

definitely banging someone else

[Sara]

This must be the month for break ups.

[sparkyg]

Lots of change in summer, once you are in your 20's things happen fast and people change fast.

The 20's are a little rough with relationships. The 30's slow with kids then the 40's can bring more problems.