[SonnyJack]

Originally Posted by bringsmewomen

I'm asian. I've been on two dates with a Korean girl. She seems to be pretty cool all around except for one thing. She seems to be a little discriminant towards non-asians. The way in which I first discovered this is when in conversation, I tell her I typically can date any nationality as long as they're cool and we click well. She said she only date asians. I thought to myself, hmm fine. Personal preference.

But it came up again last night in conversation and she referred back to this earlier conversation, she said she thought it was "weird" that I date non-asians. She's also said other little things which hints a bit of things along the same lines. I'm not sure I'd consider that completely racist because it's quite common for asians to only want to date asians. However, I do feel like it leans towards a bit of racism and it throws a kink into how I think of her since I disagree with this notion.

Aside from this fact, she seems to be cool and we get along great. We can talk for hours, and we have decent chemistry. I think she's got a lot of potential otherwise. But this bothers me.

What do y'all think about this?

Thinking she's a "racist" without a bit more info is a bit of a stretch. Maybe she is and maybe she isn't but unless you get more out of her there is no way you can tell. Now, if when describing other races she begins dropping those many unprintable words then yeah, maybe you got ahold of a racist, but otherwise personal preferance is just that.

Does she have non asian friends?

Time to go on a fishing expedition my man and gather more info.

[TikoV]

^^^^ I partially agree with your comment. Communities should want to integrate and not be alienating. This is a lot to do with the attitudes from your rednecks to asians.

[bringsmewomen]

So the general consensus seems to me is that it's not a dealbreaker.

[immiketoo]

That's up to you...

[nnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn]

If it bothers you now, it will always bother you.

[Vanity]

What your girlfriend is doing is so typical for Asians. I see what the OP is trying to say, but let me put it in better words (tell me if I got it right).

Being Asian myself, I grew up in western culture. I have no "issues" with other races, I'd date them to try it out, etc. But, my personal preference is for Asians. The problem here for the OP, I think, is that his girlfriend wasn't raised in a very western-atmosphere. In other words, her girlfriend was instilled with very traditional Asian thinking: That you must marry in your own culture, because our culture is the best and f-everybody else.

I think the OP is worried because his girlfriend might not be a modern thinker. If she's still caught up in traditional customs and traditional thinking, then it says a lot about her. Especially since she's Korean, because traditional Korean women expect the men to do EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING: buying food, clothes, jewelry, etc. In other words, very very shallow minded. It's one of the reasons why the Korean birth-rate has been declining for years.

If it was me, I'd avoid traditional thinking women. I'd be friends with her, but it's a deal breaker for me. But no, she's not racist for being a traditional thinker and being brought up in a traditional fashion.

[bringsmewomen]

Originally Posted by Vanity

What your girlfriend is doing is so typical for Asians. I see what the OP is trying to say, but let me put it in better words (tell me if I got it right).

Being Asian myself, I grew up in western culture. I have no "issues" with other races, I'd date them to try it out, etc. But, my personal preference is for Asians. The problem here for the OP, I think, is that his girlfriend wasn't raised in a very western-atmosphere. In other words, her girlfriend was instilled with very traditional Asian thinking: That you must marry in your own culture, because our culture is the best and f-everybody else.

I think the OP is worried because his girlfriend might not be a modern thinker. If she's still caught up in traditional customs and traditional thinking, then it says a lot about her. Especially since she's Korean, because traditional Korean women expect the men to do EVERYTHING. And I mean EVERYTHING: buying food, clothes, jewelry, etc. In other words, very very shallow minded. It's one of the reasons why the Korean birth-rate has been declining for years.

If it was me, I'd avoid traditional thinking women. I'd be friends with her, but it's a deal breaker for me. But no, she's not racist for being a traditional thinker and being brought up in a traditional fashion.

Thanks for that reply...

She seems not to be very shallow minded nor someone who is lazy. She seems to be the one who's constantly cleaning and cooking for her family. (This is what she tells me but we'll see if she's really like this...) She was also born in the states so she's not traditional in every way. But she has some things I don't agree with still, and the race things is one of them. It shows to me she's closeminded to some things still.

[BTM]

Originally Posted by bringsmewomen

cleaning and cooking

win

[JayKay335i]

If you were not born in the US, and you come to the US and just alienate your self and live in your own closed community my opinion towards you is to GTFO out of our country.

[Kroy]

^ isn't cooking and cleaning considered... traditional?

[double_j]

I'm Asian myself so know how cliquey we can be. Despite that, almost every Asian I know (except for the uber-traditional) have no qualms about interacting with non-Asian society.

I wouldn't consider it an issue unless you see her try to impose her beliefs on you or others (e.g., looks down on your non-asian friends or doesn't really want to associate with any other non-asians). That would make it a dealbreaker for me.

[MF80]

I hate racist...

[Kroy]

OP, unless your girlfriend blatantly looks down on other races, I don't really see this as a problem. Most people of any race is more comfortable with their own race. It's a fact of life that we find comfort in what we can relate to. That being said, is she rude or short with non-Asians?

A little OT but I've always noticed that Asians are more prejudice towards OTHER Asians rather than non-Asians. Just my observation.

[TK-421]

Originally Posted by BTM

win

[samwoo2go]

Originally Posted by bringsmewomen

I'm asian. I've been on two dates with a Korean girl. She seems to be pretty cool all around except for one thing. She seems to be a little discriminant towards non-asians. The way in which I first discovered this is when in conversation, I tell her I typically can date any nationality as long as they're cool and we click well. She said she only date asians. I thought to myself, hmm fine. Personal preference.

But it came up again last night in conversation and she referred back to this earlier conversation, she said she thought it was "weird" that I date non-asians. She's also said other little things which hints a bit of things along the same lines. I'm not sure I'd consider that completely racist because it's quite common for asians to only want to date asians. However, I do feel like it leans towards a bit of racism and it throws a kink into how I think of her since I disagree with this notion.

Aside from this fact, she seems to be cool and we get along great. We can talk for hours, and we have decent chemistry. I think she's got a lot of potential otherwise. But this bothers me.

What do y'all think about this?

First of all I need to know what kind of Asian are you.

Being an Asian yourself, you should already know that majority of Asians are extremely racist, not only are they racist. We are also nationalists, meaning we don't like other Asians. This culture believe system mainly derived from our parents and grandparents generations with hundreds and thousands of years of war and conflicts in the region. Even tho it gets better with every generation that lives abroad, this point of view is embedded into our culture deeply. A lot of Asians I know have no problem dating outside of their race and ethnicity, but will only marry the same ethnicity. Kind of like how a lot of Jews insist on marrying within the "Jew race".

So if you are not Korean, just feel good that this girl is already progressive enough to date outside of Koreans, as I know a lot of Koreans will only date Koreans. If you are Koreans, know that when she says she only dates "Asians," she meant I only date "Koreans."

Do you know there's brothels in Japan that would not take your business unless you are Japanese? even if you pay double, it's not about the money to them nor because the girls don't want to fuck you but rather the owners think that your non Japanese dick is going to pollute the bitchs' vagoo and contaminate their Japanese customers penis. Fucking Amazing.

[samwoo2go]

Originally Posted by JayKay335i

I've had some Asian friends in the past but never really was close with them. In grad school I have met a lot of Asians and I couldn't believe how close minded many of them were and how cliquey they were. Many will ONLY hang out with Asians. Many come from completely Asian communities. I actually have a problem with somebody coming to America and living in a community that tries its best to pretend they are back in Asia.

what's your problem with K-town?

[ghosthi32]

everyone is a racist...

[Kroy]

Originally Posted by ghosthi32

everyone is a racist...

impossible not to be to some extent.

[NYCGarbagePrince]

Originally Posted by Kroy

impossible not to be to some extent.

Hate! Hate! Hate! Hate!

[infinitekidM2C]

She can date who she wants..unless she's calling people N'ers or sth i figure she just has certain tastes, like we all do. Maybe she's racist but who knows. Your bigger problems is she sounds closed-minded which is usually true of boring or unintelligent people.

[graider]

i see nothing wrong with this. you should feel lucky that she is only interested in asian...you.

she is wife material there buddy. stop fwcking worry too much and enjoy that korean will ya.

Originally Posted by bringsmewomen

I'm asian. I've been on two dates with a Korean girl. She seems to be pretty cool all around except for one thing. She seems to be a little discriminant towards non-asians. The way in which I first discovered this is when in conversation, I tell her I typically can date any nationality as long as they're cool and we click well. She said she only date asians. I thought to myself, hmm fine. Personal preference.

But it came up again last night in conversation and she referred back to this earlier conversation, she said she thought it was "weird" that I date non-asians. She's also said other little things which hints a bit of things along the same lines. I'm not sure I'd consider that completely racist because it's quite common for asians to only want to date asians. However, I do feel like it leans towards a bit of racism and it throws a kink into how I think of her since I disagree with this notion.

Aside from this fact, she seems to be cool and we get along great. We can talk for hours, and we have decent chemistry. I think she's got a lot of potential otherwise. But this bothers me.

What do y'all think about this?

[graider]

Originally Posted by ghosthi32

everyone is a racist...

truf